“Let’s just leave it at that.”

This past weekend marked one year of sobriety and recovery for Midwestern Mama’s son. They celebrated the occasion with Saturday morning breakfast at a local diner. No hoopla, but plenty of pride and a healthy side of confidence.

Three hundred and sixty seven days ago, my son stopped using opiates and other drugs. It has been his longest period of sobriety and his most sincere. Unlike past encounters with treatment and recovery, the past year has filled me with great confidence about this time is indeed different.

It makes me want to do my Mom dance! (Only I know how much that embarrasses my kids.) Without a doubt, I want to shower him with accolades. But he’s not a “loud and proud” kind of person. Instead, he’s quieter and more introspective these days. In many ways, his struggles with anxiety, depression and addiction transformed him from extroverted to introverted, and I have to recognize and respect that.

He is proud of himself and he knows the family is, too. He has worked hard this past year and is continuing to do the hard work to rebuild his life and transition to self sufficiency in due time. He is taking it slower, not rushing things – in the past, not approaching it this way triggered a terrible relapse that set him back even further than ever before.

The menu at our breakfast diner offered many enticing items and he was eager to sample several. Over Huevos Rancheros, French toast, sausage links and chocolate milk, I told him I wouldn’t make a big deal out of the occasion … but I did want to commemorate it. He looked me in the eye and said, “Let’s just leave it at that.”

I smiled and so did he.

Celebrating One Year of Sobriety for Midwestern Mama's Son!
Celebrating One Year of Sobriety for Midwestern Mama’s Son!

Midwestern Mama

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7 thoughts on ““Let’s just leave it at that.”

    1. Thanks for commenting, Eric. Hope is absolutely what helped our family through our son’s addiction. In time, hope turned into belief. The best gift I can give others is hope that their loved ones will find sobriety and recovery. It is entirely possible, but it does not happen until their loved one is ready – that is among the toughest parts of loving and wanting to help someone with addiction. Together, we can share hope and it will make a positive difference.

      1. Absolutely. Sharing the hope is important. Letting others know that recovery is possible is the best gift I feel I can offer. Letting them know not to give up and that they too can do it. It’s my way of giving back. I agree together we can definitely make a difference. ☺

  1. Congratulations to your son & your family on his year of sobriety! I know you are all so very proud of him and he is equally proud of himself. It is a big deal and one to be celebrated and I can’t think of a better way than with a delicious breakfast 🙂

    1. Thanks, Nadine. I’ve been counting the days to write this post! (And, of course, praying that it would be possible.) Mealtimes – whether daily gatherings at the kitchen table or celebratory ones at a restaurant – have been a mainstay in our family. In good times as well as in more challenging ones, a shared meal has always fostered communication and conveyed love … or at least I hope so.

      1. I know you were and I know it feels so good to be able to finally be able to write it!! I have no doubt your mealtimes conveyed love which is what make the way you celebrated even more sweet!

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