Techie or not, most of us know that when something electronic is not working that hitting the reset button – rebooting – is often the best thing to do. Amateurs and professionals alike suggest it as a first course of action. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t.
It got me thinking that we have hit the reset button and attempted to reboot many times since addiction started messing with our son’s wiring. Research on drugs and alcohol continues to show substantial, detrimental impact on the brain – a complex network of wiring and chemicals – even when used recreationally. So, it seems like the computer analogy applies when a loved one is affected by chronic substance use and its various repercussions.
Within a few days of leaving his recovery program – early, against their recommendations and without a solid plan in place — my son reverted to his previous coping mechanisms and behavior patterns. It’s now been about five weeks and what I’m observing is not very encouraging. It’s downright sad.
When a loved one has gone haywire, it feels like it’s time to is an attempt to do just that: to push the reset button, to reboot. However, the only buttons to which we have access are our own. Hard as it is, the only reboot button that I can push is my own.